On the contrary, the ability to ask for help takes incredible courage and strength of character. I am a firm believer of living my life with scaffolding. To me that means asking for help from those who I love and feel safe with. It means approaching life with an open and authentic stance to my being human. It also means loosening the grip of perfectionism and embracing my perfectly imperfect way of being. (After all, that is a heck of a lot more fun.) And most importantly, to live with scaffolding is to know that shame and fear breed in the darkness. Bringing just a flicker of light begins to loosen their grip. And one of the safest ways to do this is with the support of a therapist.